The Magic of Making Love Last

Finding a partner is only the first step on the path to relationship magic. To make it last you need to grow together as a couple, as this develops a lasting, passionate and loving relationship.

Having a great relationship or marriage just by learning to communicate more sensitively is not that simple. Communication can help differences in outlook between men and women, but this is not the main cause of relationship differences.

It's friendship that counts most in relationships. If you are close friends it will create positive energy in all areas of your partnership. A successful love relationship is based on deep friendship, mutual respect for, and enjoyment of each others company. Happy couples tend to know each other intimately - well aware of each other's likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes and dreams.

As simple as it may sound, they have an trusting regard for each other and express fondness not just in big ways but in little, everyday ways. Maintaining friendship as the foundation of your love as a couple, means you can both enjoy relationships far more passionate than couples who spend their lives together with romantic vacations and lavish anniversary gifts, but who have fallen out of touch with their day to day needs as a couple. Friendship feeds the flames of romance because it offers protection against you feeling frustrated or angry towards your partner, making you more tolerant and understanding as a friend.

Relationships start off with a high level of friendship, so trying to imagine the relationship ever deteriorating is difficult. But over time, anger, irritation and resentment can cause the friendship
to wear thin. Repairing your friendship won't stop you both from arguing; but it can provide insight into each others needs over time, preventing your arguments becoming too frequent or destructive.

You can say things that you don't mean when you are feeling very emotional, but it doesn't mean the end of your love together. Couples with a strong friendship make, and mutually accept, 'repair attempts' during a disagreement. During a screaming match one partner might pull a funny face, crack a joke or smile to reduce anger and resentment, which can lead to a more loving connection. Unsuccessful relationships tend to ignore or make no attempt to repair the damage done by a violent quarrel. Relationships find it hard to recover from this lack of action.

When your friendship is struggling, and you find yourself getting frustrated with your partner over time, there are several ways to test your attraction for each other, and get your relationship back on course.

 

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